As the "only child" at home, my mother leaned on him heavily and, as so many lonely parents do, she turned him in to her surrogate husband.
This is nature's way of maintaining a sense of balance.
The scientific term for this phenomenon is "homeostasis." Additionally, nature hates a vacuum so when a space as large as a mother or father becomes vacant, something or someone will unconsciously and automatically want to fill it.
He even went so far as to live next door to her so that he could be close enough to her if and when she called but have a sense of separation too.
After all, he had a wife and daughter who needed him at home.
Those who are using their children to get their emotional needs met may believe that the new arrangement is a good one because they believe everyone benefits.
They get their needs met and, as they see it, their children benefit because they get to feel useful and loved.
Just know that your Mom/ Dad is not trying to replace your loved one. – Joelle, 14 Talk to your Mom/Dad if you are feeling like they are trying to replace your loved one.
Parents can be a great source of answers and confidence.
Don’t ever be afraid to ask about it, they may not want to talk about it at the moment, but come back at a better time and discuss it together, don’t be scared to let them know how you feel.
When my parents divorced, thirty years ago, my younger brother was the only one of the five kids who hadn't gone of to college yet.
Q: My Mom is dating again, and I’m worried that she’s trying to replace my Dad one. – Anonymous, 17 The way i thought of it was that my mom dating was to make her happy and to get her mind off things.